Facts and hacks for having sex on your period!
Periods. Sex. Period sex. Roughly half of Earth’s population will deal with menstruation throughout their lives, and sometimes shark week can get sexy.
Let’s talk about pros, cons, and some tips for period sex!
- Endorphins and oxytocin released during sex and orgasm may help ease period cramps and relieve stress and irritability.
- You probably won’t need to use much, if any, lube for vaginal penetration since the slick combination of blood, uterine lining, and cervical mucus is a really effective lubricant on its own.
- There is some evidence that orgasms during your period may actually shorten it. Not that it will make you bleed less, but just remember how periods work: There’s a series of uterine contractions that slowly releases the menstrual fluid over the course of several days. What else can cause uterine contractions? Orgasm! Orgasms during your period could help expel all that stuff more quickly than you otherwise would.
- It’s messy. Of course, this could be a pro for you if you’re into that! But a lot of people aren’t. And as I mentioned before with the uterine contractions during orgasm, you might release a particularly large amount of blood during or after sex.
- There is also evidence that someone being on their period may increase some STI risks for everyone involved. I talked a bit about the possible science behind this in my Q&A #4 video, which I’ll link below. But suffice it to say, if STI transmission is a concern for you, this is a time you’ll definitely want to be using barriers — condoms, dams, gloves, etc. (Sidenote: these things will also make cleanup easier).
- Sex towel. Have one. Go find the least nice towel you own and lay it under your body when you have sex or masturbate on your period. If you want to get real fancy, there are things like Liberator Throes and other specialty blankets made with a soft outside for comfort and an inner moisture barrier lining to provide extra protection in keeping fluids from soaking through. But a ratty towel will also do the job just fine.
- If you don’t want to deal with the mess, it could be a great time for shower sex!
- Softcups (a type of menstrual cup) and synthetic menstrual sponges (also called “soft tampons”) are menstrual products that can be worn during penetrative sex.
- Certain positions can also use gravity to lessen the flow of blood. Anything that has you on your back with your pelvis tilted upwards will help keep everything in your body and not on the sheets. Just be careful when getting up because any blood that has built up will come out.
- Finally, periods don’t necessarily protect you from pregnancy. Contraception is just as important during your period as it is during any other time of the month if you’re worried about getting pregnant.
Some people really enjoy period sex, while others find it really unpleasant. There is no right or wrong choice when it comes to whether or not you want to have it, but either way I hope you’ve learned something and that some of these tips are helpful!
If you’ve got any questions, be sure to leave them in the comments!
Thanks for watching, and I’ll see you next time!